sqlite: enable defensive mode by default #2022

Job	Run time
Build slim tarball	1m 30s
x86_64-darwin: with shared libraries	36m 53s
aarch64-darwin: with shared libraries	25m 26s
x86_64-linux: with shared libraries	30m 12s
aarch64-linux: with shared libraries	24m 54s
	1h 58m 55s

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